Throughout the year, we talk a lot about different elements of infertility: the cost of treatments, nutrition that can help boost your fertility, and the different hormones that impact conception, to name just a few.
With the year coming to an end, we want to take a quick time out from delivering this kind of information. While immensely valuable during your fertility journey and beyond, science and statistics don’t touch on one very real, very important element of fertility: your heart.
From the moment you (and your partner, if applicable) decide to try to get pregnant, you invest your whole heart into the process. As time goes on and the pregnancy tests don’t turn pink, your heart can grow weary.
It’s in these moments that you need to celebrate the journey, not just the destination. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t feel the pain of infertility or that you shouldn’t acknowledge the struggle. But sometimes refocusing on the joy — in whatever way possible — can help your body and your heart heal. Here are 5 ways to celebrate your fertility journey and bring joy back into the process.
1. Make a gratitude list
Gratitude is the expression of appreciation for what you have now. You may be aching for a child but there’s probably a lot that you can be grateful for.
According to Psychology Today, “studies show that we can deliberately cultivate gratitude, and can increase our well-being and happiness by doing so. In addition, gratefulness—and especially expression of it to others—is associated with increased energy, optimism, and empathy.”
Start a gratitude list today. It can be as short or as long as you want. Your gratitude can be for something as big as the ability to afford fertility treatments or as small as a hot cup of tea.
2. Volunteer your time
Nothing puts things into perspective like giving your time to people who aren’t as fortunate as you are. During the holidays, it’s easy to find local organizations that need help. You can do anything from serving meals to homeless people to volunteering to read to seniors. You’re sure to feel better when you can take the focus off of your infertility, even just for a few hours.
3. Throw yourself a baby making party
Baby showers may bring up some pain when you’re struggling to get pregnant but trying for a baby is worthy of its own celebration. Don’t wait until you’re pregnant to throw a shower. Instead, bring together your closest friends and family to honor your fertility journey. It can be as intimate or as grand as you please. Sometimes keeping your infertility a secret can feel safer. If no one knows, then you don’t have to make explanations about why you’re still not pregnant. On the other hand, when the people you love know that you’re trying to have a baby, they can offer you love and support at every step of the way. Bring everyone together to celebrate this new season of your life!
4. Plant something
Even if bringing a baby into the world is proving difficult, you can still create life. Buy a packet of seeds, some soil, and a beautiful planter. Take an afternoon to plant the seeds and, as you place each into the soil, set the intention of getting pregnant and having the baby you’ve always wanted. These intentions from Circle Bloom are a great place to start. As your plant grows, you can watch as your intentions bloom, too.
5. Give yourself a break from TTC
Trying to conceive a baby can become all-consuming, especially as time goes on. Still, you have a full and complete life, even if you’re not pregnant. Your relationship, career, friendships, and hobbies help make you the person that you are. If trying to conceive is making it hard to enjoy anything, you may want to consider taking a baby break. Even if it’s just for a week, resetting can help give you the energy you need to keep trying.
You don’t have to celebrate if you don’t feel like it. If you choose to, these activities can help reignite the fire in your heart and help your life — as it is now — become more joyful. You do, after all, want to bring your baby into the world surrounded by joy. What better way than to celebrate the process of creating them?