There is so much power in solidarity. When you know that other people have experienced what you’re going through — the ups, the downs, the in-betweens — it can make your own process feel a lot less scary. One of the most beautiful things that one woman can do for another is to respond to her fears, her joy, or her questions with an empowering cry of “me, too!”
So we asked our social media community to chime in with their best advice for women trying to conceive. The answers? Pure gold.
Breathe, it will happen.
She’s right. It will happen, one way or another. Though that may be much easier said than done, it’s worth a shot. Sit quietly and take a deep breath in through your nose. Slowly let it out through your mouth. Be in the moment and continue to breathe, affirming to yourself that your time to be a mother will come and, when it does, it will be just as beautiful as you imagined.
It will be the toughest but most rewarding thing you’ll ever do in the pursuit of growing your family.
Sometimes the hardest challenges we face the end with the most incredible of results. Persist through it. Know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. That light may look different for you than it does for others. Reach out to friends, family, and professionals to help guide you through this time.
Stay involved with your spouse involving stuff other than infertility. This journey can bring you close and sometimes it can make you feel alone because no matter how hard they try they can’t fully understand how this journey feels as a woman. But doing another thing together and keeping the romance and love alive makes things a lot easier.
Remember that you’re in this together. Having a baby won’t magically solve any relationship problems. Work on those things now so that when it’s time for you to be parents, you can welcome your child into a loving environment.
No matter how hard it gets, in the end, you will have a little piece of your love with your partner physically — a little you running around and that’s the best feeling!
Just imagine the footsteps in the hallway, the sweet kisses, and the days where you don’t get nearly enough sleep but are able to run on love. The day will come — keep looking towards that.
You and your spouse are already a family without a baby.
This is the truth. Families look so many different ways. With no baby or with 5, you and your partner are a family. When the time comes for children, they’ll be a wonderful addition. But you are already complete.
Trust the timing, and make sure you’re in balance with yourself. That means your mind, your body, and soul. You’re going to be your babies home, make sure it’s ready.
Mind. Body. Soul. These things all connect so make sure you’re putting self-care and self-love at the top of your priority list.
Be your own advocate and go with your instinct. Seek a second opinion (or third, or fourth, if necessary!), ask for another blood test if you deem it necessary. Do your research and do what is best for you. You WILL reach the other side eventually and just as hard as you are trying to get to your baby, your baby is trying as equally hard to get to you.
One of the best things a mother-to-be can learn is how to trust her gut and demand answers, even when no one else seems to be concerned. You know your body better than anyone. And when your baby comes, you’ll know how to be an advocate for them, too.
Be patient and be thankful for the things that are happening in your life right now. Be positive and take each day as a blessing and know that good things are happening every day.
Gratitude, even when things are hard, can go a long way. The mindset you have can absolutely affect your body’s ability to become pregnant.
It won’t happen on vacation or if you try harder. It doesn’t happen in one cycle and sometimes not even ten cycles. But persevere and remain patient.
Patience seems to be the real key. Breathe and keep going.
Relax and live. If it doesn’t happen right away, keep trying. Don’t get so wrapped up with TTC — take the time to enjoy each other and the baby will come.
This is wisdom, right here. Treat your spouse with love and kindness — this journey is hard for both of you. Spend time loving each other and know that you’ll be able to give that love to your baby one day.
Even though it may seem like everyone else is ahead of you, they’re not. You have your own individual journey and it’s just not your time yet, but that day will come. Just don’t give up!
Stay in your own lane. Comparison never does anything but make us feel worse.
Don’t let TTC control your whole life. Don’t give up hope and keep trying but live your life. You don’t want to look back with regret. Even though I am still not pregnant after almost 4 years, I try to live my life and be thankful for something each day. It keeps me going.
Live your life to the fullest. Take the vacations, eat the dessert, have sex when you’re not ovulating. Putting your life on hold while you wait for a baby isn’t the answer.