Trying to conceive on a regular day can be stressful without constant reminders that you haven’t been able to have a baby yet. On Mother’s Day it can be an especially painful reminder. It feels great to celebrate the amazing women and mothers in your life but it can be disappointing when you yourself cannot celebrate.
It’s important to understand that you’re not alone in these feelings. There are tons of women coping with the exact same struggle every day. Here are some tips for keeping your head during Mother’s Day.
Give Yourself Permission
You don’t need anyone else’s permission to grieve. Just let it all out. Allow yourself to feel the feelings you’ve been keeping bottled up. You spend every other day of the year being strong and holding it all together. Today, you don’t have to. It can be cathartic to let the tears flow and to allow the feelings to wash over you. Once you’ve given the tears and sadness their time, let it all go. You don’t have to feel those things today if you don’t want to.
Confide in Someone
Talk to someone you trust, whether it’s a partner or a close family member. Having a soundboard to bounce your thoughts and feelings off of can help you manage them all better. It’s okay to have irrational feelings and thoughts, but another person can help you sort through them and determine what is real and what’s not.
Choose How You’ll Spend Your Day
Perhaps your family has a tradition of a big Mother’s Day brunch where the whole brood gets together to celebrate the mothers. You don’t have to participate! If attending will cause you more stress, you can opt out. However, if you would feel better surrounded by your family members, feel free to attend. You get to decide how you’ll spend the day.
Take Care of Yourself
It’s important to focus on your mental health when you’re going through a difficult time. Make sure you’re taking time out to pamper yourself. Schedule yourself a spa day, try a DIY a face mask, or just curl up with a good book and take a nap. Whatever your version of self care is, indulge in it today.
Fertility struggles can be stressful on their own but when coupled with a holiday like Mother’s Day, it can be especially unbearable. Take time to yourself before Mother’s Day and make sure you’re taking care of YOU first.
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