The tragedy of miscarriage launches a woman into a period of complicated emotion that can be very difficult to overcome. Understandably, someone grieving miscarriage may not want to try for another baby for some time, as she addresses her grief. Whatever her experience, she shouldn’t have to go through it alone. An emotional support network is crucial when dealing with a traumatic event like pregnancy loss.
How to Ease the Grieving Process.
Connect With Loved Ones
For many, pregnancy loss is a profoundly personal and private matter. But as with other forms of trauma, it is good to reach out and connect with others, rather than keeping entirely to yourself. Finding people to talk to may be easier than you think.
It is important to remember that as you are dealing with the grief of losing a pregnancy, your partner is as well. While men and women grieve in different ways, you can help each other cope with open communication.
You may not want to tell anyone else about your miscarriage, especially at first. But being able to speak to friends and loved ones can be a huge boon. If there are people in your life you feel comfortable talking to about your experience, you should certainly do so.
If sharing the emotional effects of pregnancy loss with your partner and loved ones isn’t enough to help you grieving a miscarriage, you may consider seeking out a therapist or support group. The grieving of a miscarriage may lead to lasting conditions including depression and even post-traumatic stress disorder. A counselor is trained to help you deal with these symptoms so that you can manage them and work through your grief in a healthy manner.
Support groups allow those who have gone through the trauma of pregnancy loss to come together and share their stories. Meeting others who may be at different stages of the journey through grief can show you that it gets better.
Take Care of Yourself
Most importantly, you must focus on your own health, both physical and mental, during your time of loss. You can only heal in your own time, so don’t push yourself. Make sure you get enough rest and eat a healthy diet. Talk to your doctor about physical symptoms and ask questions about what you should expect as you heal.
It’s not unhealthy to want to remember your lost child and acknowledge that you did, in fact, lose something. You may want to make something to memorialize your child. Perhaps you just want to keep a journal as you work through your grief.
Ultimately, you will come to terms with pregnancy loss in your own way. You should reach out to any sources of support you can to cope with such a traumatic event. If you would like more information about moving on following pregnancy loss, we have a page devoted to the topic. We also conducted an interview with writer Francesca Cox about her own experience with pregnancy loss.