Spending months or years trying to conceive can take a physical, mental, and certainly emotional toll on a person. With all that time dedicated to attempting to have a baby, are you focusing on you?
It’s important to remember that you need to be taken care of too. If you’re not taking time off to focus on your health, both physical and mental, you aren’t doing yourself any favors. Spending some time away from trying to get pregnant could be beneficial for both you and your partner.
Reasons You Might Be Considering a Break
A Recent Loss
It can be difficult enough to struggle with fertility troubles, but to continue trying after you’ve just experienced a miscarriage or stillbirth can be downright unbearable. Even if your doctor has signed off on you trying to conceive again, you might not be ready yourself. Only you and your partner know when you’re truly ready to try again.
Trying to conceive is emotionally taxing. Months or even years of trying with no results? It’s not an easy feeling to cope with. It’s normal to feel emotionally exhausted after a long journey of trying to conceive. Infertility is often associated with depression and anxiety. If you are struggling with either of these, you should consult your healthcare professional or seek counseling.
It’s okay to be unsure about continuing your fertility treatments. When things aren’t going your way, it’s easy to feel like you just want to quit. Making the decision to stop your treatments is a big one and it can take time and consideration. Taking some personal time to weigh your options could end up clearing your mind and help you make your decision.
Techniques for Self-Care
Self-doubt, anxiety, marital distress: these are all feelings frequently associated with infertility. Educating yourself about the common emotional responses to infertility could help you realize that you’re not reacting irrationally. Your emotions are valid and you shouldn’t feel wrong for feeling the way you do. Understanding more about why you’re feeling that way could help you come to terms with your emotions.
Speak to a Professional
Talking to a counselor, especially one who specializes in the field of infertility, could help you and your partner sort through your thoughts and feelings about your fertility journey. Although you don’t have to specifically see a therapist who focuses on dealing with infertility, it could comfort you to speak to someone who has experience helping people who are struggling with fertility. You also don’t have to go to this counselor alone. You can go with or without your partner. It’s up to you.
Find a Support Group
Coming together with others who are on the same journey as you could help you feel less alone. You can find free support groups around the country through Resolve here.
Make sure you set an end date before you take a break from trying to conceive. This will give your break more of a structure and give you a chance to gather yourself and your thoughts before making the decision to continue on your fertility journey or close the curtain on that chapter of your life.
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