Losing a pregnancy is tragic, and it can leave you feeling isolated, sad, or angry. But in time and with support those feelings may fade, and eventually you may want to try to get pregnant again. So, what should you know when you are ready to start trying to conceive?
Start Trying Again As Soon As You Feel Ready
Old folk wisdom says that a woman should wait three months after a miscarriage to try becoming pregnant again - some doctors would even give this advice to women without a medical basis. However, new research turns this advice on its head. A recent study showed that those who started trying to get pregnant again right away had a 70% chance of success, compared to only 51% for those who waited more than three months.
It’s still worth pausing your efforts briefly, however. You should avoid having sex for two weeks after losing a pregnancy to prevent possible infection (and, of course, check with your doctor to ensure you’re in the clear). But the numbers say that the psychological effects of losing a pregnancy are more concerning than the physical ones. Nearly 1 in 6 women experience significant depression or anxiety after pregnancy loss.
Because of this, a break before trying to conceive again may be right for you, even once you’re medically cleared. Ideally, you can start trying to become pregnant again as soon as you have recovered emotionally. Your body may be ready very soon after, and you may have the best chance if you start sooner rather than later. However, you should not rush your decision. Trying for a baby is personal, and you’ll know when you’re ready.
Your Chance Of Becoming Pregnant Again
Science has found no sign that pregnancy loss affects your ability to conceive again. In fact, for those who have lost one pregnancy, conceiving again is much like the first time. Your chances of having a second miscarriage are only slightly higher than the odds of having the first: 25% versus the typical 15% to 20%.
However, a history of pregnancy loss may indicate an underlying health problem. If you’ve lost multiple pregnancies, you should definitely consult with your doctor before trying to conceive again. However, even after many losses, it is still possible to have a successful pregnancy. In fact, the odds of getting pregnant after recurrent pregnancy loss are as high as 50% to 65%.
Look To The Future When Trying Again
If you decide to try getting pregnant again following pregnancy loss, know that your chances are just as good as anyone trying for a baby for the first time. This is especially true if you start again within the first three months.
Dealing with pregnancy loss is difficult for everyone, but many couples experience it and go on to start or expand their families. With the support of loved ones, friends, and your doctor, you can recover from your loss and have a great chance at a successful pregnancy. For more on trying to conceive after miscarriage, read our previous post on the subject.