The real reason for all of the get-togethers on Memorial Day is about remembering and showing gratitude for those who died defending our country, and our freedom. We remember those brave men and women who gave their lives for our freedom. Memorial Day is a special day, reserved to share appreciation for those who served/have served- living and lost.

Like other holidays that involve social gatherings, Memorial Day might be made more difficult for those trying to conceive. Social events can be uncomfortable due to the worry on how to field questions and comments from loved ones about trying for a baby.

A lot of anxiety can stem from not knowing. Not knowing when or how you are going to have a baby, or not knowing how to react to those who do not fully understand what you are going through can cause extra stress to you. Below are some tips to help you navigate the picnic scenes, dodge the baby chatter and enjoy Memorial Day weekend.


  • Try to give off the vibe that suggests you are not ready to have a conversation by sipping a drink or nibbling on a snack (check out some easy drink recipes perfect for Memorial Day that are listed below). While you are not completely shutting others out, you are giving yourself a few breaks from uncomfortable conversations. If this does not work don’t be afraid to stop an awkward or uncomfortable conversation by switching the subject.
  • Entertaining the kids at social gatherings can take some of the pressure off as well. Most everyone isn’t going to bother you while you’re in the middle of playing games with their kids and keeping them out of trouble. If you do not struggle with being around children while trying to conceive, take advantage of hanging with the children at the event.
  • If you do encounter someone who starts to make you feel uncomfortable, Dr. Andrea Braverman has some amazing tips about what you could say or do if someone does ask you about your family planning goals at any social gathering. Click here to read them.



DRINK RECIPES (Non-Alcoholic)

1. Melon berry splash

4 Cups Watermelon
Juice of 1 Lemon
10 Frozen Strawberries, partially thawed

1. In a blender, combine the above ingredients. Blend until smooth.
2. Enjoy!

2. Red, White and Blue layered drink

Cranberry Juice
Blue PowerAde or Blue Gatorade G2
Sprite Zero or Diet 7Up

1. Fill your cup with ice all the way to the top.
2. Pour cranberry juice in over the ice to fill the glass one-third of the way up.
3. Slowly pour the blue PowerAde on top of the ice, so the drink drips down the ice. Fill the glass another one-third, so it is now two-thirds full.
4. Slowly pour the Sprite Zero over the ice like you did the PowerAde to fill the glass to the top.
5. Repeat with additional glasses or with a full pitcher. (If you use a pitcher the flavors won’t blend quite as well because the drink will be poured out of the pitcher and each layer will come out somewhat separate)

3. Hibiscus Iced Tea Sparkler

4 cups boiling water
8 hibiscus tea bags
½ cup honey
2 cups sparkling water (I use Perrier)
¼ cup mint leaves, for garnish
Strawberries, for garnish

1. In a large pitcher, combine tea bags, honey, and boiling water; let steep 30 minutes to 1 hour, depending on how strong you like your tea.
2. Remove tea bags.
3. Add ice to pitcher and stir in sparkling water.
4. Add mint.
5. Refrigerate for 1 hour or until chilled.
6. Garnish with strawberries.
7. Enjoy!